It's "veg out". Short for "vegetative". Why does what other people are doing bother you so much?
Things That Irritate You in Life
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It's "veg out". Short for "vegetative". Why does what other people are doing bother you so much?
It sometimes seems like the main form of productivity which holds importance for you is listing the ways in which people/things irritate you
But in all seriousness, relaxation of the brain as well as the body is very important to both mental and physical health - forcing oneself to be consistently and constantly productive may *feel* like the right course of action, but it is a one-way road to burning out.
Just ask Luisa Madrigal in the film Encanto
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It sometimes seems like the main form of productivity which holds importance for you is listing the ways in which people/things irritate you
But in all seriousness, relaxation of the brain as well as the body is very important to both mental and physical health - forcing oneself to be consistently and constantly productive may *feel* like the right course of action, but it is a one-way road to burning out.
Just ask Luisa Madrigal in the film Encanto
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To be fair, I do think meditation is important and time off is important. Pardon my digression, but I support a bill being sponsored by Representative Mark Takano of California's 39th Congressional District (which includes the cities of Jurupa Valley, Riverside, Moreno Valley, and Perris) to implement a 4 day work here in the United States. Though unfortunately I don't see this bill becoming law anytime soon, I strongly support it and would like to see it's passage. I also strongly support policies such as universal basic income and extended paid time off (making it minimum one month as I think is the case in certain European countries).
I am going to have to think more about that... but I am sure I have my reasons... I guess some of this might be projection regarding my own strong dislike of the symptoms associated with of cabin fever (despite being a more introverted person who values his alone time and living by himself). Cabin fever meaning "Irritability, listlessness, and similar symptoms resulting from long confinement or isolation indoors." Cabin fever is something else that irritates me...
People relaxing has nothing to do with you. As TLD said, relaxing is really important for our brains. I know what cabin fever is; I don't think anyone *likes* it, given it's something that is involuntary.
Venting my problems to friends and family does feel good but as long as my problem remains I just have the urge to vent more. This of course does become repetitive and irritated irritated at least one person in my life. I feel like a hill myna screaming its calls in a cage* despite knowing that it won’t help it get out of there. Heck, my fear of bothering people is the reason why I hadn’t done it here (that and I probably shouldn’t get too personal here)
Of course the first solution is to try and get out of my current situation. But I don’t know if I got what it takes. I just feel like I have been kicking the can for a long time.
Tl;dr the thing that irritates me is that I vent a lot yet have no solutions.
*= I chose this specific bird after seeing a group of them in a tower/silo cage in Polonezköy Zoo. Poor birds were screeching as if they would get free or gain respect from the visitors or something.
Of course the first solution is to try and get out of my current situation. But I don’t know if I got what it takes. I just feel like I have been kicking the can for a long time.
Tl;dr the thing that irritates me is that I vent a lot yet have no solutions.
*= I chose this specific bird after seeing a group of them in a tower/silo cage in Polonezköy Zoo. Poor birds were screeching as if they would get free or gain respect from the visitors or something.
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The heat that has come back, and which I don't deal with very well.
My visit to Planckendael that didn't go very well. I underestimated how warm it already would be early in the day, and suffered for it. I was also stressed and tense for much of the visit, although it did get a little bit better towards the end of it.
Later I also started having a flare-up of my irritable bowel syndrome, and together with the heat that has caused me to feel really tired for the rest of the day.
The fact that lately I have been feeling all the time like I'm not doing enough and not making any progress with anything, and feeling very mentally exhausted, anxious, stressed and easily frustrated. I have a few days off from work coming up, I hope they will allow me to get some rest and do me some good at least.
My visit to Planckendael that didn't go very well. I underestimated how warm it already would be early in the day, and suffered for it. I was also stressed and tense for much of the visit, although it did get a little bit better towards the end of it.
Later I also started having a flare-up of my irritable bowel syndrome, and together with the heat that has caused me to feel really tired for the rest of the day.
The fact that lately I have been feeling all the time like I'm not doing enough and not making any progress with anything, and feeling very mentally exhausted, anxious, stressed and easily frustrated. I have a few days off from work coming up, I hope they will allow me to get some rest and do me some good at least.
Maybe try planning an ideal day at a smaller zoo/one you know well. I have a lot of your same issues (or all, maybe?) and I've found smaller places are good for experimenting with different clothing items to keep me cooler, what to pack and how to carry it all, how to pace myself and when to take breaks, etc. Like if a certain type of water bottle is easier for me or too heavy, if I want it in my bag or in a separate holder or clipped to my bag, those sorts of things. It can also be better for testing out if things like tablets for IBS are good to take (some will dehydrate you, which isn't good for being out all day) before you go, take during your visit, etc. Think of what your ideal visit would look like *within your control* and then work on steps you can take to make that happen.
Not sure if you do this or not but I obsess over maps beforehand, too. I try to know where all the bathrooms are, where the quiet areas are, if there's multiple first aid type places (bigger zoos sometimes have a secondary one). A lot of places are now putting an accessibility section on their website which can give some helpful info! It varies a lot but sometimes there's maps that show what the noisiest and quietest areas are, if there's a lot of elevation changes, where benches might be.
Planckendael is my home zoo, so I know the place very well, and I have a pretty standard plan for a good visit there. I did make use today of knowing where quieter areas and shaded areas are at Planckendael, but it didn't help completely.
I'm not sure what you are talking about in terms of clothing that keeps you cooler, but I'm afraid I'll be fairly limited in that respect - for example I do not ever wear shorts in a public place.
I did take a new type of medication specifically for IBS for a while, but it didn't seem to do anything for me, so now I also take medication to treat symptoms, and try to be careful with my diet (lactose and certain vegetables are a problem for me, and apparently I found a new type of vegetable I can't stand anymore this week).
I love zoo maps, it is something I always look at when visiting new places or places I don't visit often. And I try to look at the placement of different facilities when I look at maps.
There are fabrics now that are specifically for helping keep you cool. Also wearing linen, no synthetics (unless made to cool), etc. I just wore shorts for the first time in years at the last zoo I went to
Eating the right foods helps! I think Europe is a bit more open to you packing your own food, as well.
There are fabrics now that are specifically for helping keep you cool. Also wearing linen, no synthetics (unless made to cool), etc. I just wore shorts for the first time in years at the last zoo I went to
Eating the right foods helps! I think Europe is a bit more open to you packing your own food, as well.
Could you by any chance give me any examples of those fabrics? I couldn't really quickly dig up anything helpful using Google.
I have been bringing my own lunch to zoos since this issue started, because it is rather hard to eat anywhere with lactose intolerance (very surprising how many things contain milk products in some form). I do usually buy some drinks at the zoo though.
I can't seem to find the article I saved on it, but for things like nylon, they're supposed to be treated with something, I don't remember the specifics! In general there's two types of summer-wear fabrics: those that cool and those that don't show sweat. A lot of activewear is made from things like nylon which doesn't absorb sweat, but results in that sweat staying on your skin, making you hot. There's now technology being used to treat those to make them wick that sweat away from you, but there's a bunch of different brands of that with various different names. I haven't tried any of those yet as they're more expensive and I'm a weird size/shape. I did finally try linen pants recently, though; a surgery meant I needed looser pants for a while. I wasn't sure about them, because they feel thicker and the fabric is a bit scratchy at first, but after a few washes the scratchy goes away. They wrinkle easily but definitely kept my legs a lot cooler when doing 3 major zoos in 3 days!
This is a good short article on basics: https://www.rei.com/learn/expert-advice/how-to-pick-the-most-breathable-fabrics.html
REI is a major and well-respected outdoors outfitter in the USA.
Humble-bragging:
People who say, “My kids are so smart, they must get it from their mother/father because they certainly don’t get it from me!” Your kids aren’t smart - owing to both genetics and environment.
People who ask “Do you think is okay as a temporary holding tank for my fish? I’m not sure if it should be bigger?” in relation to a photo of a well planted aquarium that’s bigger than any tank you’d expect to see within the private aquarium industry. Just post a photo of your aquarium to show people what you’ve done with it; or refer to guidelines that are readily available online to answer what you already know the answer to.
People who say, “My kids are so smart, they must get it from their mother/father because they certainly don’t get it from me!” Your kids aren’t smart - owing to both genetics and environment.
People who ask “Do you think is okay as a temporary holding tank for my fish? I’m not sure if it should be bigger?” in relation to a photo of a well planted aquarium that’s bigger than any tank you’d expect to see within the private aquarium industry. Just post a photo of your aquarium to show people what you’ve done with it; or refer to guidelines that are readily available online to answer what you already know the answer to.
Pardon the digression, but here is something else from Andrew Huberman that I found informative, inspiring and strongly relatable.
I found this video interesting and thought you might appreciate it. I strongly related to much of what he was saying!
Here is something else that irritates me, dealing with people that are pushy, unrelenting and won't take no for an answer. Sometimes people just need to pump the brakes, walk away, and mind their own business.
Honestly... I should have the right to have my strong opinions and follow through on decisions that I make even if I have a hard time articulating my reasons for them (especially if I understand why formed the opinions that did or why I made the decisions that I did). Sometimes I have the right not to explain myself to others or have debates or discussions with them about said topic. Truthfully, I have the right to be closed-minded and have my mind made up on certain issues. Sometimes I have the right not to even hear things (some days just aren't the day for it). I should have the right to say no to certain things, including emphatic no's and not feel guilty about it. One of my favorite sayings, "If it ain't broke don't fix it", definitely applies to many of these dynamics.
It is important to be able to set boundaries. Yet another irritating thing, some people will not accept those boundaries you set and that can be quite draining, especially when you are someone who cares about others. Sometimes, it can be painful disappoint people who want to be more involved in my business than I can manage, and it becomes difficult to find balance. It is not my fault when people get angry at me for setting boundaries with them, nor should it be. Boundaries are healthy, as they should be. Another thing that irritates me is that some people, even if I explain every minute detail of why I am making a decision, it won't satisfy them. Especially with the nature of certain decisions, they are nobody's damn business.
Honestly... I should have the right to have my strong opinions and follow through on decisions that I make even if I have a hard time articulating my reasons for them (especially if I understand why formed the opinions that did or why I made the decisions that I did). Sometimes I have the right not to explain myself to others or have debates or discussions with them about said topic. Truthfully, I have the right to be closed-minded and have my mind made up on certain issues. Sometimes I have the right not to even hear things (some days just aren't the day for it). I should have the right to say no to certain things, including emphatic no's and not feel guilty about it. One of my favorite sayings, "If it ain't broke don't fix it", definitely applies to many of these dynamics.
It is important to be able to set boundaries. Yet another irritating thing, some people will not accept those boundaries you set and that can be quite draining, especially when you are someone who cares about others. Sometimes, it can be painful disappoint people who want to be more involved in my business than I can manage, and it becomes difficult to find balance. It is not my fault when people get angry at me for setting boundaries with them, nor should it be. Boundaries are healthy, as they should be. Another thing that irritates me is that some people, even if I explain every minute detail of why I am making a decision, it won't satisfy them. Especially with the nature of certain decisions, they are nobody's damn business.
When you do something that you would post about in the "Things people do that irritate you when you go to the zoo?" thread if someone else did it, and upset another visitor.
At GaiaZoo earlier this week I made the mistake of unthinkingly squeezing myself between two other groups of visitors that were standing quite close together to take photos of an animal.
An older woman got upset and started complaining of being rudely pushed aside. While I am certain I did not actually touch or deliberately shove anyone, even accidentally, I will admit I was rather rude stepping in between the groups like I did and should have thought about the situation better and should have had the common sense and respect to wait for either of the groups to move.
I tend to complain a fair bit about the behavior of other visitors, but I guess I have to look at my own behavior a bit more also.
At GaiaZoo earlier this week I made the mistake of unthinkingly squeezing myself between two other groups of visitors that were standing quite close together to take photos of an animal.
An older woman got upset and started complaining of being rudely pushed aside. While I am certain I did not actually touch or deliberately shove anyone, even accidentally, I will admit I was rather rude stepping in between the groups like I did and should have thought about the situation better and should have had the common sense and respect to wait for either of the groups to move.
I tend to complain a fair bit about the behavior of other visitors, but I guess I have to look at my own behavior a bit more also.
Being aware of that, and working to correct it, is really the most important part!
Another thing that really irritates me is dealing with poor eyesight and occasional vertigo (a sensation of whirling and loss of balance, associated particularly with looking down from a great height, or caused by disease affecting the inner ear or the vestibular nerve) especially after waking up.