I couldn't agree with you more and I share your irritation and impatience with these people! These people go about life based on emotions and not logic...
Things That Irritate You in Life
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I couldn't agree with you more and I share your irritation and impatience with these people! These people go about life based on emotions and not logic...
Anytime some archaeological discovery is made, especially in Egypt, social media posts will be filled with the same unoriginal comments made by 50+ people. “Put it back, haven’t you seen The Mummy?” or “I don’t need an ancient curse making 202X any worse.”
Another big thing that irritates me, especially today. Dealing with people that throw the baby out with the bathwater on a frequent basis and have no concept of taking what you want or need and leaving the rest. In conversations, many of these people automatically repudiate or dismiss an idea or statement simply because of who said it. That is dismissive, that is an example of jumping to conclusions and taking things out of context, and it is a sign that they are not thinking things through. Man, these people are really difficult to deal with...
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One example of this... An old friend of mine, there was a certain person that we both knew that he used to adore and look up to, but then automatically soon after, he strongly despised and resented this person for whatever reason. Eventually, he started liking this person again to the point of becoming a mini-me of him if you will. There was no middle ground and he had no concept of taking what he wanted or needed and leaving the rest. If I had a nickel for every time I had to tell him, "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater", I would be a rich man.
Some of those people just might be autistic…..
For the people in my life I was referring to, I can't say I see that, but if this were the case I would try to have a lot more compassion and patience.
Another thing that irritates me is working/dealing with people and institutions that are blind outside of their frame, especially when they are in a position to make big decisions that end up effecting you or your life. Read about the gorilla-ball pass experiment: But Did You See the Gorilla? The Problem With Inattentional Blindness | Science| Smithsonian Magazine
On a related note, to be frank, I have to say, from personal life experience, some people just get educated into ignorance. I have dealt with my share of that...
On a related note, to be frank, I have to say, from personal life experience, some people just get educated into ignorance. I have dealt with my share of that...
I've been through the wringer a bit this week.
Sleeping badly with the heat, one of my chickens which also seemed to be having problems with the heat (but she seems to be doing better again now), getting sick (stomach issues, again), feeling like crap in general and on top of it all I am having some trouble with my camera and/or one of my lenses (which might be getting towards the end of their lifespan).
I have this feeling things are just not stopping and that there is something new coming up all the time, and it makes me anxious and I hate it.
Sleeping badly with the heat, one of my chickens which also seemed to be having problems with the heat (but she seems to be doing better again now), getting sick (stomach issues, again), feeling like crap in general and on top of it all I am having some trouble with my camera and/or one of my lenses (which might be getting towards the end of their lifespan).
I have this feeling things are just not stopping and that there is something new coming up all the time, and it makes me anxious and I hate it.
Pantheraman
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Whenever someone tries shoving an ideology down my throat rather than accepting that I'll probably disagree with them.
My recently diagnosed lactose intolerance and irritable bowel syndrome, and how challenging it makes to eat away from home (including at zoos restaurants - it is really surprising to learn how many foods contain milk in some form) or get take-away food.
My telelens giving up today towards the end of my visit at Bouillon, I hope I can get it either fixed or replaced as soon as possible, given the time of the year.
The fact I still get panicky and upset when things suddenly go wrong. I am happy that this panic and upset almost always relatively quickly go away and progress to seeking solutions these days, certainly much quicker then they used to (at times in the past they lasted hours or even days), but I really wish I didn't react this way so easily anymore.
My telelens giving up today towards the end of my visit at Bouillon, I hope I can get it either fixed or replaced as soon as possible, given the time of the year.
The fact I still get panicky and upset when things suddenly go wrong. I am happy that this panic and upset almost always relatively quickly go away and progress to seeking solutions these days, certainly much quicker then they used to (at times in the past they lasted hours or even days), but I really wish I didn't react this way so easily anymore.
Unfortunately it seems like I'm going through another bout of things lasting days, after what happened yesterday.
I am having a really bad day and I'm very upset and angry with myself. So angry that this morning in haste and frustration I posted something I shouldn't have (and already had removed) about leaving the zoo hobby.
It is unlikely I will be leaving the hobby entirely, but it does look like I will be (needing to) go on hiatus for a while, hopefully not too long.
I have some idea what that feels like. I've done similar things before in life. Taking a hiatus is good and can help clear the mind. I sincerely hope whatever is upsetting you doesn't interfere with your hobby any further. We all need things to look forward to.
Take any time you need, and remember I'm always happy to talk about things via PM if you want an understanding and neurodiverse ear to vent to
Take any time you need, and remember I'm always happy to talk about things via PM if you want an understanding and neurodiverse ear to vent to
I have decided to step back from most zoo-related and social media for the two coming months, and in that time frame I likely will only be lurking and liking stuff here at ZooChat.
I hope I will find some rest.
I will try to remember the offer to talk about things.
Another thing that irritates me...
Tribalism and group-think dynamics....
Adding to that... It seems that in many establishments, there is often an uncomfortably high emphasis on social proof, meaning that the average person within an establishment or group is more likely to like or respect you if others also do. Inversely, if someone doesn't like you and makes it known in a group setting (which can be indicated by a number of social cues) then other people belonging to that group will likely also dislike you, even without reason.
When someone doesn't like you in a group setting it can make winning over the crowd an uphill battle... This shines light on why it is important to focus our time and energy on people who appreciate us and avoid settings (both in person and online) where we feel unwanted or only tolerated.
Tribalism and group-think dynamics....
Adding to that... It seems that in many establishments, there is often an uncomfortably high emphasis on social proof, meaning that the average person within an establishment or group is more likely to like or respect you if others also do. Inversely, if someone doesn't like you and makes it known in a group setting (which can be indicated by a number of social cues) then other people belonging to that group will likely also dislike you, even without reason.
When someone doesn't like you in a group setting it can make winning over the crowd an uphill battle... This shines light on why it is important to focus our time and energy on people who appreciate us and avoid settings (both in person and online) where we feel unwanted or only tolerated.
On a related note, another thing that irritates the hell out of me sometimes to the point of feeling anger is when people (myself included: which I have done more times than I am proud to admit) vedge out. To vedge means to relax in a mindless way (usually followed by out): to use it in a sentence, "We vegged out all weekend, watching the soccer channel and ordering pizza." Frequent and consistent productivity is something that is very important to me!
I have related to that. I'll be honest, since the passing of my mom in 2016, I have been losing and misplacing items on a mote frequent basis. I feel for your circumstances man...
By the way, I support you with your hiatus, doing them can really clear your mind!
Just wanted to add two things.
Firstly, nothing really dramatic like losing a family member happened to me recently. What's been going on is just the result of a general downturn in my fragile mental health and of general anxiety, stress and lack of mental energy. Nothing really big has happened, just a bunch of small things that I have been reacting poorly to.
Secondly, I do not plan to go on hiatus for as long as I previously mentioned (two months), but my active participation here at ZooChat will be limited to what I can manage until hopefully things improve and I feel better.