Indeed there were similar rules with the other two girls. Whilst I'm not familiar with Haida, I do know Nootka rarely performed in shows and spent majority of her days in the back pools. Like Tili, she was deemed non waterwork upon her arrival. Nootka was a very moody whale, and so was unsuitable for shows anyhow. Her sole intention was to mainly fall pregnant, and so she spent most of her time with Tili. There were heavy restrictions working with her; much like with Tili. Only senior trainers could work with them, and there were obviously other precautions trainers had to take when working with Nootka. One rule I do know existed with Nootka, was that trainers weren't allowed to wear loose wetsuits around her and Tili. Seniors wanted to avoid every chance of them potentially being pulled in. In saying that, tactile contact was still allowed with both, only that it would be from on land and a spotter would be required for every interaction.
I know quite less about Haida, but she was indeed the dominant female at San Antonio. Unlike Nootka, she did perform in shows a lot and seemed to be a very cooperative whale in that aspect. She was often grouped with her son, Ky who was very, very close to her. The pair were almost inseparable. Katerina and Keet also spent a lot of time with them too. Haida was obviously no waterwork too, but from photos it does seem like she had a far more physical relationship with trainers than the likes of Tili and Nootka at Orlando. Again, it probably came down to management which varied at each park.