In Bonobo society it is the females that are dominant, not the males - this is maintained primarily by increased social contact between females and the formation of "alliances", Diatou is the dominant animal in the group and with Kichele/Cheeka they form a 3 to 1 ratio that leaves Kakowet firmly at the bottom of the dominance hierarchy, generally speaking if one of the three has an issue then they all do and they will gang up.
Reconciliation is regularly carried out through sexualy contact (not neccessarily matings) and such contact has a number of roles in Bonobo society, when animals are excited or come accross a novel object for example, some form of sexual contact will almost certainly follow - they are by far the most sexually adventurous animal on the planet, every possible imaginable position/combination has been observed in bonobos, back to back, "doggy", face to face, oral, masturbation, contacts between male/female, m/m, f/f and adolescent animals with others in the group (of both genders including parents) have been witnessed. It is important to remember though that these contacts have an important social role and rarely "finish" in the traditional way, indeed many contacts would be incapable of creating offspring regardless.
Kakowet II is the oldest male in the group although I don't have his exact age to hand I can easily check tomorrow for you.
Yes definately, currently Cheeka/Gemena, Banya/Bokela, Diatou/Luo have all been reared successfully without human intervention to the best of my knowledge and all seem to be be caring and capable mothers.
On a side note I have discovered this site:
Ape List Pongoland - Bonobo that details a femal Bonobo named Yasa that is the offsprinf of Kakowet II and Kichele that was moved to Leipzig zoo in 2004, so it seems that Kichele also has a history of breeding successfully although I do not know if this animal was hand reared or why it was moved to Leipzig.